Message To Muslim Youth

This pointers are  quite apt . Truly a thoughtful Message To Muslim Youth esp those still in school.

May Allah Almighty (God) bless all of you with health and happiness all
the time all the year round, this year and the next, and forever. Since
you are the youth of Islam, and the future of Islam rest’s on your
shoulders, let me tell you the following :

1. Be kind to your parents, if they are alive. Treat them with kindness
and love.

2. Be yourself. Do not try to be somebody else.

3. Manage your time properly. Keep an account of time; how much you
spend on studies, how much talking with loved ones, how much watching
TV, how much on other

entertainment etc? I am not saying that you should not watch TV or go
to a movie. What I am saying is that you should always take stock of
time.

4. Your first priority should be your studies. You must try to excel in
your studies. Whatever your potential, you must try to develop it
fully.

5. When you study a book, be critical. Always generate plenty of
questions. If you will not question, then chances are that you may not
understand it completely.

6. Try to be creative. How to be creative? Well there are many ways to
be creative. Probably everyone has a unique approach. But there are
some common guidelines one can use. When you get stuck on a problem,
let your mind think and wonder. Do not open the book and see what the
solution is. Let your mind get frustrated.

Always resist the tendency of quick results. Give your mind a chance to
succeed on its own. You will realize soon that your creative energy
will start flowing. When the mind is deprived of easy means and it is
not satisfied with present things, it tries to create ingenious means
by being creative. All the inventions has been invented in that way.

7. So far I did not talk about the Quran. There is a reason for that. I
want you to develop critical thinking ability in your studies first: in
science, mathematics, computers, and economics, whatever you have
chosen. If you cannot develop this ability most probably you would not
understand the Quran. Also, understanding of the Quran is a long and
hard and a life long process. And it requires lot of patience and
perseverance plus it demands sacrifice. Therefore, you should first try
to take few important verses of the Quran (the ones dealing with human
relationships and character building) and try to integrate them in your
life and studies. Of course it will be very hard and there will be lot
of temptations to skirt. But try to avoid them. But keep in mind that
we are human beings. We make mistakes. So, don’t feel too bad or don’t
be too hard on yourself if you make mistakes. Just make sure that next
time you must be careful.

8. Do not take advantage of others and do not let others take advantage
of you. This is easier said than done, especially for the latter part.
But always remember Hazrat Umar’s saying: A momin is one who not only
does not deceive anyone but does not get deceived as well. The downfall
of Muslims is in major part due to the fact that that they have not
practiced this saying of Khalifa Umar. They are so easily conned,
cheated, and taken advantage of when they are in strong position. When
they are weak and vulnerable no one cares for them and everyone kicks
them around. What you see now a days is the result of that. So, always
keep this saying of Hazrat Umar in mind. But remember, as I said, it is
very difficult but with experience you will learn – if you are
sincere.

9. In relation to the above, let me also mention that from among
Muslims there are con artists selling Islam in the name of serving
Islam. They are hunting for Muslim youth. Do not fall prey to their
sweet talks. Keep your mind’s eyes open and apply Hazrat Umar’s
principle. Do not ever underestimate your own intelligence.

10. Whatever is happening in the World right now in general, do not
worry too much about them yourselves. Let us, (the older generation)
worry about it. You should remain focused on your studies and to become
economically independent and stable. How can you help others if you
cannot help yourself? That should be enough worry for you if your goal
is to be the best.

11. When you have accomplished that then your cumulative weight of
knowledge and expertise and the strength of character will create
miracles that you at this time cannot imagine. Then a new world of
Islam will rise up on your shoulders. An Islam, which will have dignity
and power, based on the strength of knowledge and character rather than
the current Islam that is based on customs, rituals, and belief in
miracles resulting in suffering and humiliations of Muslims throughout
the world.

These are some of my thoughts emanating from the depth of my heart. I
hope like wise that it penetrates the bottom of your hearts and
become’s the driving force in your lives. I hope this serves as a
catalyst to change your lives for the better. Let the youth of Islam
show to the world what Islam really is, not what Islam has been
made out to be. May Allah Almighty give you the strength and the
necessary courage to carry out this important mission.

SOURCE: http://my.opera.com/Quran/blog/index.dml/tag/Message%20To%20Muslim%20Youth

‘They have taken away all rewards”

 

“O, Prophet of Allah! The rich among us have taken away all the rewards,” complained the poor Companions. “They pray as we pray, they fast as we fast, but they also give wealth in charity (while we have no wealth to spend).” (Refer Imam Nawawi’s 40 Hadith for the full narration.)

THE poor among the Ummah deserve a special mention because they are more often than not overlooked, their interests disregarded and their voices ignored. Throughout human history, they have always been the first to believe in the Messengers of Allah, and they will enter Jannah 500 years before everyone else.

During Ramadan last year, at the initiative of a friend, we stood at a traffic signal giving away dates, water and laban just before Iftar time for commuting people who may not have a chance otherwise to break their fast with food. We distributed all the food packs without realizing we had kept none for ourselves, which left us with no other option than breaking our fast at a masjid nearby. The adhan was called while we were heading to the masjid.

We joined the “banquet” of a people who would seldom – if ever – join ours. They were those whose names would never find place in the sprawling invitations we give out for our lavish feasts. Yes, they were all there – the African children and the Asian laborers.

Yet they welcomed us with a smile and made space for us. They shared their Iftar, which was no more than some dates, a piece of bread that they broke into half for us, and some drinks. Being used to excess, we couldn’t imagine how the already small meal would be sufficient for them if they divided between us.
The African children, stereotyped for crimes and what not, were wonderful. A boy turned to me and passed on his can of soft drink. What should I do? I refused. “Children they are after all, who not just love, but crave for sweet drinks,” I thought. He pushed the can towards me and gestured he would share his friend’s.

These are people who we don’t even say our salaams to. The Black women scavengers are seen all around the country. They stop with their trolleys and children at the time of Salah and pray on pavements. Nevertheless, we pass them by as if they don’t exist, as if they are excluded from the obligation of saying salaams to our fellow Muslims.

How much did I learn from that incident? I don’t know. Which lesson was the most important – being content with little; giving preference to others over ourselves; or genuine hospitality? I don’t know. I was reminded of a narration in Al–Bukhari: A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, “Poverty has struck me.”

The Prophet asked his wives if they had anything to feed the man. They had none. So an Ansari man came forward to host the man. He took him home and told his wife, “Entertain the guest of Allah’s Messenger generously.” She said, “By Allah! We have nothing except the meal for my children.” He replied, “Put your children to sleep if they ask for supper. Turn off the lamps. We go to bed hungry tonight.” The lights were put off so the guest wouldn’t know the hosts had nothing to eat, but were merely pretending to eat in their empty plates. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said the next morning that Allah “laughed at the action of so-and-so and his wife” and then revealed the verse, “and they give them preference over themselves even though they were in need of that.” (Qur’an, 59:9)

Life carried on and the incident was soon buried in the sands of time till something similar took place this Ramadan. This time we were in the Prophet’s Mosque, waiting for the time of Iftar. As is the usual practice, locals of Madina compete with each other to serve the fasting people. The sufra was spread early, and the people were taking their spots – the places from where they would serve.

The hosts of the sufra where I was seated were a father and four sons, the eldest of whom looked no more than twelve. As yoghurt, bread, dates and water were being dished out, one of the boys would stand by the passageway inviting the influx of worshipers to break the fast at his sufra. He had many competitors to worry about. When people walked past him without paying any attention, he started to cling on to their arms with his tiny hands, pleading them to be his guests.

What desire to serve! How could any number of words describe that sight, or describe the emotions that would erupt from such a sight?
My hosts did not appear rich. Their clothes were simple. The father’s Thobe was, according to the standards of elite, dirty. The family appeared to be even larger, and their income modest. Yet they were here spending their valuable money to feed others, so they could please their Lord and earn some reward.
There we were, sitting with fine, pressed clothes, eating shamelessly, and being pleased with the “how–good–we–are” thought. Such incidents really show who the real miskeen are. We have built up fortunes of kings, but give charity less than a pauper would. The truly rich are not those who have more cash, they are those who have big hearts filled with lots of generosity.

With all the education, culture and enlightenment, if we have not come up to the level of underprivileged Muslims in character then there’s some fundamental flaw in the methodology of our learning.

If the Prophet (peace be upon him) were alive today, the rich would really be complaining, “O, Prophet of Allah! The poor among us have taken away all the rewards!”

As published in the Saudi Gazette by Faraz Omar (Editor Saudi Gazette)

Source: http://muslimmatters.org/2009/11/24/%E2%80%98they-have-taken-away-all-rewards%E2%80%99/

Being at peace with yourself- Psychological Approach towards Acceptance and Serenity

Imagine what your reaction would be if you saw your Muslim brother or sister verbally and physically abusing another Muslim that was feeling very depressed for making a mistake?  What if you heard them yelling, “ YOU STUPID IDIOT…..can’t you do anything right? Then punching him and saying, “YOU’RE ALWAYS MESSING UP!”  As he  tries  to catch his breath, he kicks him and says , “You are so WORTHLESS!”  Your heart would be overflowing with sympathy for the one oppressed and with absolute rage at the oppressor. The natural response would be to protect the oppressed, help him up  and tend to his wounds.  You would comfort him by explaining that we all make mistakes and we can always change.  As your nurturing slowly takes effect, your anger would be directed at the cruel, heartless person standing before you.  That person could be yourself.

This is the way we usually react towards ourselves when we make mistakes and when we fall short of our expectations.  We beat ourselves up with abusive language which causes scars that last much longer than physical scars.  Negativity and hostility envelops us and we repeatedly kick ourselves until we are immobilized.  How is it that we were so sensitive and understanding towards our Muslim brother or sister yet we can’t tolerate the smallest mistakes from ourselves?  Why is it so easy to see the abuse of others and yet we are so blinded by the abuse we commit to ourselves on a daily basis?

There are many times when we may not feel good about ourselves.  It could be that we feel disappointed from repeatedly falling into the same error or extremely frustrated that we are not fulfilling our duties.  Sometimes we are not content with our personality – we may feel caged in by our shyness or out of control by our anger.  If it is not frustration or disappointment we are feeling, then it’s anxiety.  Many people suffer from anxiety which stems from fear of the future or fear of the unknown.   Whatever the circumstances may be, the reactions are usually the same.  We demoralize ourselves with negative self-talk which leaves us feeling miserable and hopeless.  Each time we make a mistake we are harsher and more severe which leaves us feeling more depressed and less peaceful.
This pattern has got to STOP.  We need to explore the many things that destroy our peace and techniques to use in order to gain that peace back.

Peace Slayers:

Dwelling Over The Past

There are times when people can’t forgive themselves for mistakes of the past.  It could be due to hurtful things they have said or done.  They spend all their time regretting the mistakes they have made. Some people can’t forgive the mistakes of others. Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the misguided. Surat Al-Araf 7:199  They have somehow been wronged either by their parents, spouse, relative, friend or complete strangers and they can’t go beyond this incident.  They end up clinging on to grudges and  they vow to never forgive the perpetrator. Living in the past prevents you from enjoying the blessings of the present.  By dwelling on the past and not being able to overlook the mistakes of themselves or others, they will rob themselves of the serenity they deserve.

2. Anxious About The Future

There are people who spend every waking moment worrying about the future. “Verily, We have created man in toil (a state of struggle and stress).” Surat Al-Balad 90:4 When will I get married?  Will I have kids? Will I pass my exam?  Am I going to get a job?  How will my kids turn out?  How will I pay for their tuition? Am I going to get sick or get a disease? What will happen when I retire?  The worries go on and on with no end in sight.  This constant preoccupation with the future makes them miss out on all the wonderful events of the present.

3. Comparing

Another way that people destroy their peace is by comparing themselves to others.  They look at the polished exterior of others and feel inadequate about themselves, their spouse and their children since they are aware of all their own flaws and shortcomings. Each person is a package deal so accept the whole package.  You may be admiring a person’s good looks not knowing how their heart is diseased. The wealth and possessions of others may impress you when you are unaware of the tests they may be encountering. And He has raised you in ranks, some above others that He may test you in that which He has bestowed on you.  Surat Al-An’am 6:165   Look not with your eyes ambitiously at what We have bestowed on certain classes, nor grieve over them. Surat Al-Hijr 15:88 Each time we compare, we are left feeling unhappy and anxious, depriving ourselves from being aware of all the wonderful things  in our lives.

The only time it is recommended to compare is when it has a positive impact on our lives.  We can compare ourselves to people more knowledgeable or more charitable in order to get us inspired to be a better person. Narrated by Abu Hurairah the Prophet (peace and salat upon him) said, “Do not wish to be like anyone except two men:  A man whom Allah has taught the Quran and he recites it during the day and night and a man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it on charity.  Another permissible comparison is looking at people who are much worse off than us in wealth and health.  By doing this we instantly feel grateful and pacified.

4. Rejecting your destiny

The worst way of slaying your peace is by rejecting your destiny.  This is when a person is absolutely angry, upset and frustrated from the events of their life.  It may be that they have not gotten married or were divorced, they are unable to get a job, they have medical issues or they are unhappy with their spouse.  Whatever the circumstance- they are mad.  They feel it’s unfair.  They question why others have it easy and their life is such a mess.  It’s vital to realize that Allah is the Most Wise and if a person questions their life they are implying (Astaghfirullah) that they know better than Allah.  When people reject their destiny, they sentence themselves to a life of misery.  You may hate something when it is good for you, and you may love something when it is bad for you.  Allah knows, and you do not know.  (Surat al-Baqara, 2:216)

Ways to attain peace:

1.Relationship with God

When people have a strong, healthy relationship with their creator, they attain an infinite amount of peace.  It is Allah who sent peace and tranquility into the hearts of the believers, that they may grow more in their faith. (Surat al-Fath 48:4)  Their perspective is broadened.  They don’t only look at the circumstances and difficulties of their lives and despair.  Certainty in the promises of Allah fills their heart which makes them persevere with an unequivocal amount of patience when faced with the most unimaginable tests.  When people know the names and attributes of Allah – I mean really know them and understand them not just list the names- then they will not fall prey to the slayers of peace because they will not dwell over the past, won’t be anxious about the future, won’t compare and they definitely would not reject their destiny.  Without a well established relationship with Allah which involves obedience and commitment, no one can have true peace.  Behold! Verily on the ‘Awiliyas’ (friends) of Allah there is no fear, nor shall they grieve; those who believe and constantly guard against evil.” (10:62-63)

2.Acceptance

Acceptance is one of the most critical aspect of attaining peace.  There needs to be genuine acceptance  of everything in your life and that includes  your past, your present, your looks, your circumstances  and your destiny.  If you are unable to accept an event in your life and if you dwell on why things happened the way they did, then you will be filled with grief and anxiety.  Don’t grieve at the things that you fail to get, nor rejoice over that which has been given to you.  Surat Al-Hadid 27:23 As soon as there is acceptance, the peace immediately follows.  The focus of therapy in many instances is to help the client accept themselves and their lives.  It is amazing how a person transforms when they stop metaphorically having a tantrum by kicking and screaming and finally accepting their portion in life.

3. Internal Validation

Majority of people have very low self-esteem and the only way they can feel good about themselves is to try to gain the approval and acceptance of others.  This can be a very slippery slope depending on the people they are trying to impress.  Many teenagers are so desperate to gain recognition and approval of their peers that they will do absolutely anything. This of course is the extreme example where individuals put their ethics and beliefs aside simply to gain acceptance.  However; there is a more subtle, psychological issue which involves being unhappy unless a person receives compliments or validations.  They simply can’t feel adequate unless they get another person’s approval.  This will make a person extremely needy of others and they will never feel content or even peaceful unless another person gives them validation. That is why it is of paramount importance to give internal validation ; feeling good about actions because they are pleasing to Allah. There is no need to be dependent on others to feel good or worthy.  And they give food for the love of Him to the poor, orphan, and the captive saying, “We feed you seeking Allah’s Countenance only.  We wish for no reward , nor thanks from you.” Surat-Al-Insan 76:8,9)

4.Self-Talk

The dialogue people have with themselves has been estimated to be about 600 words a minute!  What’s all the chatter about ?  Studies show that 85% of the self-talk is negative.  Once the self-talk is seen as a way to program the mind, it can be used to achieve peace.  When a person says comforting things to themselves rather than beating themselves up they will be in a much better state to reach their goals.  It is important to remember to be kind and understanding when mistakes occur and to always be aware of the internal dialogue.  When the self-talk is positive then a person can overcome any obstacle – if it is negative they will propel in a downward spiral of depression.   Whatever is said in this internal dialogue will determine the mood, the level of peace and the ability to achieve any goal so watch the self-talk.

5. Self-worth

A person’s self-worth is not based on some number – it’s not how much is in the bank account, IQ, size, GPA or salary.  When people start equating their worth based on these things they can feel extremely discouraged.  Self-worth is the ability for people to see themselves as competent, successful individuals that are able to deal effectively with the demands of their lives.  One of the biggest stumbling blocks to success is a lack of self-worth. The best way to feel worthwhile is doing everything in your life to please the creator. Verily, my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my death are for Allah, the Lord of mankind Surat Al-An’am 6: 162 In this way the action is done purely for Allah without longing for any recognition or approval from anyone else.  It is essential to establish an exemplary character which truly makes any individual an invaluable asset to have in any setting.  To foster a feeling of self-worth is to set small, achievable goals that will bring about a feeling of confidence.   Contributing time, money and talent in helping others will also develop a strong sense of self-worth.  Whosoever intercedes for a good cause will have the reward thereof Surat An-Nisa 4:85.

6. Forgiveness

The key to having peace within ourselves and with others is to be forgiving.  Grudges and animosity gradually diminish our state of tranquility just as a pristine piece of metal steadily rusts in harsh weather. If we view each event in our life as a test and we focus on passing the test then it is much easier to forgive.  When we forgive to only please Allah and to pass our tests peace descends upon our hearts. It is so incredibly liberating when we can let go of the hurt, throw out the emotional baggage and move on.  It will free our heart, our mind and our soul if we forgive and forget.  The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof; but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.  Surat Ash-Shura 42:40

When you are faced with difficulties and disappointments make sure you avoid the peace slayers.  As you stay away from the things that rob you of peace, work hard on attaining it back through the above mentioned suggestions.  Each item in this article requires another article to elaborate on the topic in depth; however I wanted to give an overview of how peace can be attained since so many people struggle with it. There are multitudes of ways to gain peace – these were just a few. Share with us the ways you go about attaining peace.

SOURCE: http://muslimmatters.org/2011/04/18/being-at-peace-with-yourself-psychological-approach-towards-acceptance-and-serenity/#printpreview

The Dangers of Debts

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

All the praises and thanks be to Allah, the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinn and all that exists), and no aggression is there except against the oppressors, and prayers and peace of Allah be upon whom who is sent as a mercy to the ‘Alamîn.

People have become unaware of the dangers of debt that some of them ended up in prisons or had to sell some of their properties to return all or some money to their creditors.

Therefore, I liked to write this message about the danger of debt and its consequences of great mischief both in this worldly life and the Hereafter. It does not stop at prison or selling some of the properties to pay off the debt; it goes beyond that to severe remorse and regret on the Day of Resurrection. How sever is the regret of the slave who dealt with the money of people and took it but did not pay it back! Apart from the humility in this worldly life, paying the debt off is waiting for him in the Hereafter, on the day when he will come a bankrupt, powerless and humiliated. He will not be able to give back rights nor give a valid excuse and thus his good deeds which he has spent his life accumulating will be taken from him and given to his adversaries in replacement for their money… have you not heard the words of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him: “do you know who the bankrupt is?”

«أتدرون ما المفلس؟…» رواه مسلم
So the slave of Allah should now think deeply about his book of deeds, if it is empty from acts of injustice to people not to mention debts, you counted it a little thing, while with Allah it was very great. If you realize the danger of debts and the mischief it may bring about, then you should consider these commandments:

1- Being free from debt brings about happiness, freedom and peace of mind.

2- That because the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has sought refuge with Allah from debt so many times a man from the companions said to him: “O Messenger of Allah why do you so frequently seek refuge with Allah from being in debt?”
He replied: “A person in debt tells lies whenever he speaks, and breaks promises whenever he makes (them).” [Agreed upon]

«إن الرجل إذا غرم حدّث فكذب ووعد فأخلف» متفق عليه
Being in debt is a pretext of lying when talking and in breaking promises; so it is worthy of the one who is in debt or the one that who is afraid of falling into being in debt to frequently invoke Allah by this invocation:

“O Allah, You alleviate debt and sin so alleviate them from me. O Allah, I seek refuge with You from the sins and from being in debt.”

3- So many people are ignorant of the danger of debt that they resort to it even in the most trivial matters. If they had known how the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has warned sternly against it they would have never committed being in debt. It has been narrated in so many Hadith that the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has abstained from praying the funeral prayer on him who was in debt. In the well-established Hadith, a man was brought to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, to pray on him but he said: “you pray on your companion, he has unpaid debt.” [Reported by At-Tirmidhi, Hasan Sahih (good authentic)]

«صلوا على صاحبكم فإن عليه ديناً» رواه الترمذي، حسن صحيح
It is worthy to mention that the previous case was at the beginning of Islam, when Allah opened the gates of profit to His Messenger he said: “I am closer to every believer than his own self; so whosoever leaves unpaid debt I am to pay it off, and whosoever leaves money (as inheritance) the debt is to be paid off by his heirs.” [Narrated by Abu Dawud and authenticated by Al-Albani]

«أنا أولى بكل مؤمن من نفسه فمن ترك دينا فعلي قضاؤه ومن ترك مالا فلورثته» رواه ابو داود وصححه الألباني
And whoever dies and has not paid off his debt, paying off will be from his good deeds in the Hereafter.

4- The stern warning against being in debt that if a person was duly martyred in supporting the religion of Allah he will not enter Paradise unless he pays off his debts. Imam An-Nasâ’i reported, in a good chain of transmission, and Al-Hakim, and the wordings are his, that Mohamed ibn Abdullah ibn Jahsh said: the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was sitting where the funerals are put (by the graves) then he raised his head to heavens, then he lowered his gaze, and then he put his hand on his forehead and said: “Glory be to Allah! Glory be to Allah! What a stern revelation.” He said: we knew but kept silent. The following day I asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, about the stern revelation.

He said: “it is revealed about the debt. By Him in Whose Hands is my soul if a man was killed on the cause of Allah, then he lived again and was killed again, then he lived again and was killed again while he has unpaid debt he will not enter Paradise unless his debt is paid off.”

Imam Muslim reported in his authentic book of Hadith: “Allah forgives all the sins of a martyr except unpaid debt”.

«يغفر للشهيد كل ذنب، إلا الدين» رواه مسلم
And in a narration on the authority of Samra bin Jundob: “Is there any one from “so-and-so tribe” your companion is imprisoned by the gate of Paradise (he cannot pass the gate) because of an unpaid debt.” [Al-Albani reported it with an authentic chain of transmission]

«ها هنا أحد من بني فلان؟ إن صاحبكم محبوس بباب الجنة بدين عليه» رواه الألباني، إسناده صحيح
5- Abandoning being in debt in the time of prosperity and preferring to be safe of it is better than borrowing money and be in debt that he would find it hard in the future to pay it off. Thus he would enter Hellfire because of debt, where his good deeds will be taken to his creditors and if they are not enough their sins are thrown over him. The case has been to some people that they borrow money to go on vacation in some resorts, thus he over burdens himself with heavy debts. This is but ignorance of the danger of debt and it is out of the blind imitation of the luxurious; it is entering into the hatred of Allah as He loathes the arrogant in-debt people; it is running away from the taunting of family and kids.

6- Too much debt brings about poverty and takes bless away from money; it threatens with devastation and loss. Some people have the salary of more than ten thousand Riyals, nevertheless, they complain of debt as a result of poor planning and management. They drown themselves in installments, and whenever something is presented to him he would rush to these companies and fall in installments. The case has been to some people that they have drowned themselves in luxuries: the furniture is bought in installments, the car as well as the trade that they cannot pay it off any more. Thus he spends and his family years in great destitution; his income decreases and the requests of creditors increase as a result of excessiveness. Allah Glorified and Exalted has said: {And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach (like a spendthrift), so that you become blameworthy and in severe poverty.} [Surat Al-Isrâ’: 29]

{وَلاَ تَجْعَلْ يَدَكَ مَغْلُولَةً إِلَى عُنُقِكَ وَلاَ تَبْسُطْهَا كُلَّ الْبَسْطِ فَتَقْعُدَ مَلُوماً مَّحْسُوراً} الإسراء: 29
Transliteration: Wala tajAAal yadaka maghloolatan ilaAAunuqika wala tabsutha kulla albasti fataqAAuda malooman mahsooran

And the Almighty has said: {And those who, when they spend, are neither extravagant nor niggardly, but hold a medium (way) between those (extremes).} [Surat Al-Furqân: 67].

{وَالَّذِينَ إِذَا أَنفَقُوا لَمْ يُسْرِفُوا وَلَمْ يَقْتُرُوا وَكَانَ بَيْنَ ذَلِكَ قَوَاماً} الفرقان: 67
Transliteration: Waallatheena itha anfaqoo lam yusrifoo walam yaqturoo wakana bayna thalika qawaman

7- Taking people’s money with the intention of not returning it back is treachery and theft. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: “if a man marries a woman with a dowry (that he will pay it for her later) and that he intends not to give it to her is an adulterer, and whoever borrows money and he intends not to pay it off is a thief” [Al-Albani said authentic due to other narrations],

«من تزوج امرأة على صداق، وهو ينوي أن لا يؤديه إليها؛ فهو زان، ومن ادان دينا وهو ينوي أن لا يؤديه إلى صاحبه أحسبه قال: فهو سارق» الألباني، صحيح لغيره
And in a narration by At-Tabarani: “he will meet Allah as a thief”.

«لقي الله وهو سارق» رواه الطبراني
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has said: “Whoever takes the money of people with the intention of repaying it, Allah will repay it on his behalf, and whoever takes it in order to spoil it, then Allah will spoil him.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

«من أخذ أموال الناس يريد أداءها أدى الله عنه ، ومن أخذ يريد إتلافها أتلفه الله» رواه البخاري
8- The creditor who intends to alleviate the distress of people is embraced by the mercy and glory of Allah. In the authentic Hadith: “whoever relieves the distress of his debtor or erases his debt, verily he will be under the shade of the Throne on the Day of Resurrection.” [Authenticated by Al-Albani]

«من نفس عن غريمه ، أو محا عنه ، كان في ظل العرش يوم القيامة» صححه الألباني
Allah Almighty has said: {And if the debtor is in a hard time (has no money), then grant him time till it is easy for him to repay, but if you remit it by way of charity, that is better for you if you did but know} [Surat Al-Baqarah: 280].

{وَإِن كَانَ ذُو عُسْرَةٍ فَنَظِرَةٌ إِلَى مَيْسَرَةٍ وَأَن تَصَدَّقُواْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ} البقرة: 280
Transliteration: Wain kana thoo AAusratin fanathiratun ila maysaratin waan tasaddaqoo khayrun lakum in kuntum taAAlamoona

9- The debt is distress at night and humiliation during the day, so whoever feels that debt is humiliating for men would not dare to fall in debt. It is in the Hadith: “the honor of the believer is his standing at night (praying and invoking Allah) and his pride is his being independent from people”. [Declared good by Al-Albani]

«شرف المؤمن قيامه بالليل ، و عزه استغناؤه عن الناس» حسنه الألباني
Imam At-Tirmidhi reported from Abu Kabshah Al-Anmari: “and, verily, the slave will not open a door of begging but that Allah will open before him a door of poverty”, this Hadith is good and authentic.

«ولا فتح عبد باب مسألة إلا فتح الله عليه باب فقر» رواه الترمذي، حسن صحيح
10- Beware of imitation. Just that someone has opened a shop and was successful in it you find some people rushing to borrow funds and collecting a large amount of money by debt and then starts a project, and that he wants to become a merchant overnight. Why do you involve yourself in such a predicament, which consequences may be loss, and thus you fall in unbearable debts that you cannot pay off? Do not risk yourself with which you cannot bear. Safety is above everything. So do not seek debt until you make all possible calculations, and unless you consider the outlet if you lose and how to pay off people’s money and give them their rights back. O brother, beware of debt as you can; because death comes suddenly. Economize in your spending and be moderate and waste not by extravagance so that you will not become blameworthy and in severe poverty.

11- And know -may Allah bless- you that if you fall in the predicament of debt your priority should be to pay off the debt; as it was said he who is worried because of his debt, he should pay it off. And try to reduce excessive luxury and extravagance. There are some people who borrow the money then they would have no determination in paying it off; so they borrow each month and do not care about the increasing debt. If he asks people for debt, he insists on begging. And when the debt is due he procrastinates. He would become angry if people request for their money. Some of them solve the problem of debt with another debt; their status is such as the status of those who rose from a hole to fall into a ditch. He would buy a car in installments and sell it in cash; though this issue has the suspicion of usury as was stated by his Eminence Sheikh Abdul-Aziz ibn Baz, especially for him whose intention was to get money.

12- Do not borrow unless in case of necessity, and do you know the meaning of necessity? It is when a mischief is due to take place in this worldly life and in the Hereafter; like delaying marriage that would lead to adultery. It is in the Hadith: “verily, there are three who deserve the help of Allah, and he has mentioned amongst them the one who is getting married”. [Ibn Mulqen, authentic]

«ثلاثة حق على الله أن يعينهم…والناكح يريد العفاف» ابن ملقن، صحيح
13- From the commandments is to pay of your debts justly and not to procrastinate; and that you should not eat up people’s money or denying having them. There are some borrowers who would come to you in a humble manner showing off piety and honesty; he would come to you asking to lend him money that you might be needing at the present or the following day; they remind you of the reward of generosity; they may also seek the help of those whom you cannot refuse a demand to; so you give him what he wants in private; you might even be shy of making someone witnessing the situation or that you make him sign an IOU; though Allah has commanded us when we contract a debt for a fixed period that we should write it down. It is a command of favor not a command of obligation. So he takes the money thanking and praising you in a way that may make you shy of his praise. Then you will not see him again. You will not have a glimpse of his face. You will search for him to repay you the debt which is due and that you need the money, but he evades you, he skews from you. You knock at his door but you are told he is not present. You return in the morning but he is asleep. You come after an hour and he has gone. You seek all means and friends to intercede with him but he meets you proudly turning his face away from you with pride, saying: O brother!! You have bothered us with this debt. What a strange persistence! Are you afraid that I will eat it up? And he scolds you while you are humoring him. And if he is a good man he would pay you your money but a riyal at a time that you lose your face collecting your debt. Your money becomes an affliction which you lose precious time in collecting and then you will not benefit from it as it is being repaid a penny after the other while you have given it as a whole sum. If he has no honor or conscience he will eat up the whole debt and will scream at you that you have no right with him and that you can go to court. He knows that you have no proof against him. But even though if you have written down the debt, have you any patience with the prolonged trials, their postponements and following them up? Verily, losing the money is easier than resorting to courts. O debtors: Is there any reward for good other than good?

SOURCE: Written by: Abdul-Rahman ibn Yahya At-Turki

http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=article&id=834

Seven Habits of Highly Successful Muslim Youth

You cannot escape it. The discussion about habits is all around you: Mom and Dad are constantly telling you to break your bad habits; your teachers are telling you to develop good habits; your friends are pressuring you to adopt their habits; and the television and media are influencing you to explore new and supposedly cool habits.

“You will never be successful,” the constant refrain goes, “unless you drop your bad habits and develop some good habits.” In the end, it’s all up to you. You have to decide what your habits are going to be. Have you given this matter some thought?

If you are alive and breathing, you should constantly be engaged in an inner struggle to develop habits which draw you closer to Allah Most High. Success in this world is directly related to the strength of your relationship with Allah. The farther one is from Allah and the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), the less likely one is to achieve success in this world and, for sure, even less likely to achieve success in the hereafter. Is it not time for us to reflect upon Islamic teachings to discern the necessary habits of highly successful Muslim youth?

Here are at least seven habits indispensable for highly successful Muslim youth, derived entirely from the Qur’an and the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).

1. Be Truthful

Being truthful is not always easy, especially when we make a mistake. We fret over whether or not to disclose exactly what happened. We sweat, we are afraid, we feel nervous and anxious. We are often afraid that if we tell the truth about what we have done or said, we will be in trouble with our parents or friends. What we forget is that whether we tell the truth or not, Allah Most High knows exactly what took place, even those things that were never manifest or visible to people around us. Despite how burdensome telling the truth might seem, all of us are aware of the feeling of relief we experience when we tell the truth, even if the consequence of telling the truth is punishment. Casting the telling of truth and the fate of the truthful in terms of profit and loss, Allah Most High tells us in the Qur’an,

[This is a day on which the truthful will profit from their truth: theirs are gardens, with rivers flowing beneath — their eternal Home: Allah well-pleased with them, and they with Allah. That is the great salvation, (the fulfillment of all desires).] (Al-Ma’idah 5:119)

So much is to be gained from being truthful as opposed to escaping punishment or blame because of not being truthful. Not being truthful, in fact, leads us down a slippery slope, guaranteeing that with one lie, more lies must be told. Being truthful is not an option for Muslims, but rather an obligation, because our goal in being truthful is Paradise.

The beloved of Allah, Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), said, as narrated by `Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him),

Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to al-fujur [wickedness, evil-doing], and al-fujur leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is witten before Allah, a liar.” (Sahih Bukhari, Book #73, Hadith #116)

Ultimate success is therefore achieved by living one’s entire life — the youthful years, the adult years, and the elderly years — being truthful.

2. Be Trustworthy

Who do you rely on? Of course, Allah. He is indeed the Most Trustworthy. But among humans, who do you rely on? Who can you trust to come through for you all the time? Do people rely on you? Are you considered trustworthy?Moving ahead in life, achieving ultimate success, requires that people consider you trustworthy and reliable. Being trustworthy should not be an arbitrary activity but rather a habit so that you can be relied upon in all instances, big or small, convenient or inconvenient, easy or difficult.

In colloquial terms, we often hear “I’ve got your back,” implying, in the most literal sense, that people cannot see what is behind them so they need to rely on their friends to cover that angle, just in case a threat occurs from the back. Just imagine what it would be like if a friend were climbing a tree and was heading out onto a very thin branch to get a kite that got stuck there. She asks you if you “have her back.” In this instance, she is relying on you entirely to hold on to her in case the branch breaks. There is no room for joking around or for being distracted: your friend is trusting you with her life.

When we say Allah is the Most Trustworthy, we are coming to terms with the fact that Allah Most High will never let us down, will never leave our side. He, Most High, says about someone who willingly accepts Islam,

[Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah Heareth and Knoweth all things.] (Al-Baqarah 2:256)

Indeed, the prophets of Allah were all trustworthy people and Allah attested to the trustworthiness of those who were doubted by their communities. Prophet Hud, appealing to his community, declared to them,

[I but fulfill towards you the duties of my Lord’s mission: I am to you a sincere and trustworthy adviser.] (Al-A`raf 7:68)

Practice daily developing the habit of being trustworthy. Accept responsibility and then fulfill it. When others trust you, do not betray their trust.

You can read in the beautiful biography of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) how people used to entrust him with their valuables, knowing that upon their return they would find their valuables safe and unharmed. His personal and business practices were commendable to the degree that he was known for it in his community, even before he became aware that he was the Prophet of Allah, literally one who is most truthful and trustworthy.

3. Have Self-Restraint and Be God-Conscious

Perhaps the most difficult challenge while navigating adolescence is to restrain oneself from falling victim to one’s desires — especially one’s lower desires.

Our success in life depends to a great extent on how well we are able to restrain ourselves and to be moderate in what is permissible, as well as how capable we are of distancing ourselves from what is impermissible.

Why is self-restraint so critical? Satan’s goal is to make you a slave of your desires to the extent that you eat until you are actually uncomfortable; that you consume without restraint beverages made of caffeine, sugar, and artificial flavors; that you find yourself longing for sleep more than prayer; and that you yearn to satisfy your sexual desires. Developing self-restraint as a habit entails making self-restraint your second nature — something which is done almost without thought, without too much effort. We are reminded by Allah Most High,

[And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint, — none but persons of the greatest good fortune.] (Fussilat 41:5)

In seeking to be highly successful Muslim youth, that is, youth deserving of the greatest fortune, it is imperative that you develop self-restraint.

An interesting parallel is that, throughout his Qur’an translation, the late Abdullah Yusuf Ali translates taqwa as self-restraint. While taqwa is most commonly translated as “God-consciousness,” one realizes without much effort that the height of self-restraint is full and complete understanding that one is indeed conscious of one’s duty to one’s Lord. How awesome will it be if you can look back at your life and say to yourself, all praise is due to Allah that I did not succumb to my lower desires and instead exercised self-restraint consistently!

4. Be Thorough

Look around your room. How many unfinished projects do you have? When you work on homework, are you likely to rush through the assignment just so you can be done with it or are you more likely to take your time, to check your work, and most importantly, to be thorough?

Often teachers will grade a report based on how well and to what extent the student covered the topic at hand. Being thorough is not a habit that is developed overnight. The opposite of being thorough is being incomplete, being rushed, and working in haste without any regard for accuracy or quality. The most perfect is Allah Most High, Who perfected creation, Who perfected our religion, and Who guided His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) to be the most perfect among humans in behavior and in character.

We read in the Muwatta of Imam Malik “Yahya related to me from Malik that he had heard that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘I was sent to perfect good character’” (Book #47, Hadith #47.1.8).

To be thorough stems from a desire to be perfect to the extent that this is humanly possible. Seeking perfection in our actions and speech from an early age helps us to develop a keen eye, not only for thoroughness in our own life, but also for thoroughness in the lives of those around us. Being thorough in prayer, for example, teaches us to be patient and to concentrate upon the words we are reciting and the different positions of the prayer.

5. Be Focused

One thousand ideas go through your head the moment you stand up for prayer. Is that you? Really? What do you make of those ideas? Do you process them? What about when you are sitting in class? Do you find your mind wandering, daydreaming, and unable to focus on the lecture at hand? Are you likely to use any excuse whatsoever to leave what you are doing?

Developing the habit of being focused ensures that you are awake, alert, and totally motivated to work on and complete the task at hand, whatever it may be. Being distracted early on in childhood by video games, fast-paced imagery, and constantly changing scenes on television shows contributes to an inability to concentrate, to focus. Among the best ways to develop focus is to practice praying with deep concentration to the extent that you are almost unaware of your surroundings. Allah Most High tells us in the Qur’an that the believers are

[those who humble themselves in their prayers] (Al-Mu’minun 23:2)

The humility referred to here results from total focus and concentration on the fact that one is in the presence of Allah, standing before Him, Most High. Do your best to develop focus, no matter what activity you are engaged in — whether in prayer, in academics, in athletics, or some other pastime.

6. Be Punctual

Stop saying over and over again that you are late because of “Muslim standard time,” or the “standard time” of your particular ethnicity. The last thing we should attribute to Islam is the notion that its teachings somehow make us late, slow, slugging, and anything but punctual. What a sad state of affairs, indeed, that we attribute our own weaknesses to our religion or ethnicity!

Highly successful individuals, be they Muslim or not, understand and appreciate the value of not only their time but the time of everyone else with whom they interact. Keeping people waiting for hours on end is neither something to be proud of nor a habit that has a place in the mindset of a person who tries to be successful.

One of the central pillars of Islam is prayer, and Allah and the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) have given us clear reminders that we are to establish prayers at their due times.

When `Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) asked “which deed is the dearest to Allah?” the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) replied, “To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times” (Sahih Bukhari, Book #10, Hadith #505).

If indeed your day is to be considered successful, you must have prayed all the obligatory prayers at their established times and as many voluntary prayers as possible. If your day is planned around the times of prayer, you should not pray exactly at the time when you are to pray but then come late to all other appointments. Being punctual is a habit which, when perfected, demonstrates to others the tremendous value that Islam places on time — not only ours but that of everyone else with whom we interact.

7. Be Consistent

Apart from all the habits listed above, perhaps the one that is sure to help you become a highly successful Muslim youth is that of being consistent. One cannot be truthful one day and a liar the next; one cannot be trustworthy in one instance and totally unreliable in the next; and so on for each of the other habits. A Muslim understands from an early age that it is easier to do something once or whenever we feel like it but much harder to do something regularly and consistently.

Indeed, the Mother of the Believers `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that “the most beloved action to Allah’s Apostle was that which is done continuously and regularly” (Sahih Bukhari, Book #76, Hadith #469).

Regular and consist actions show that a person has thought about it, has intended to do it, has planned to do it, and therefore does it.

We urge you to be as consistent as possible, especially in those areas of your life which need constant improvement, such as your prayers, your fasting, your manners, your studying habits, etc. Do not say, I am going to pray all day every day, or fast voluntarily all of the days of every month, or study all night every night, because such actions cannot be humanly sustained over a long period of time. Say on the other hand, I am going to be sure to read at least one part of the Qur’an every day, or I will strive to help my parents with at least one household chore every day, or I will try to study at least one new item every week so that I can be ahead of the lesson plan.

Conclusion

Finally, Muslims aspire to develop all of these habits because, in doing so, we draw nearer to Allah Most High. If you are intent on being a highly successful Muslim youth, then you owe it to yourself to reflect upon your own life and see how many of these habits are already a part of who you are and how many you need to further develop or acquire.

We end with a reminder that developing these habits will help you to emulate the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). His message and his life are summarized well in a narration of `Abdullah ibn `Abbas:

Abu Sufyan told me that Heraclius said to him, “When I enquired of you what he (Muhammad) ordered you, you replied that he ordered you to establish the prayer, to speak the truth, to be chaste, to keep promises, and to pay back trusts.” Then Heraclius added, “These are really the qualities of a prophet.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari, Book #48, Hadith #846)

Strive to develop the seven habits listed above and many others from the Islamic teachings so that you will be among the highly successful Muslim youth.

Source:By  Altaf Husain – Social Worker — USA

http://www.islamictreasure.com/?p=727

Easy Actions for which Rewards are Multiplied

<“He that does good shall have ten times as much to his credit ” (Surah Al An’am, 6:160). Its amazing the ways  Allah rewards good deeds… Here are tips on what to do in order to sow and reap abundantly. May Allah make them easy for us to practice. Amen.>

1. Preserving the ties of kinship: “Whoever wishes that his provision be increased and his age lengthened, let him maintain the ties of kinship.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

2. Performing many prayers in the two noble Harams (in Makkah and Madinah): “Prayer in this masjid of mine (the Prophet – PBUH) is superior to a thousand prayers elsewhere, except for Masjid al-Haram, and prayer in Masjid al-Haram is superior to one hundred thousand prayers elsewhere.” [Ahmad and ibn Majah]

3. Performing prayers in congregation: “Prayer in congregation is superior to praying individually twenty-seven times.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

4. Praying `Isha and Fajr in congregation: “He who prays Isha’ in Jama’ah [congregation] is as if he has prayed for half the night. As to him who (also) prays Fajr in congregation, it is as if he has prayed all night.” [Narrated by Malik and the wording is that of Muslim who also reported it]

5. Performing voluntary prayers at home: “The most superior prayer of a person is in his home, except for obligatory prayers.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. “Superiority of a man’s prayer in his home over his prayer when people see him is like the superiority of an obligatory prayer over a voluntary one.” [Al-Bayhaqi, classed as Saheeh by al-Albani]

6. Observing some manners of the day of Jumu`ah: “Whoever ghassala (washes his head, and it is said: has intercourse with his wife so that it be a means to lower the gaze from the haram that day) and ightasala (washed up his body as in the ritual impurity) on the day of Jumuah, then comes in the earliest time and before the first khutbah, walks and doesn’t ride, stays near the Imam, listens and does not speak – for each step [he makes] he has actions of one year, the reward of fasting and standing in prayer in it.” [Ahl as-Sunan]

7. Salat ul-Ishraq: “Whoever prays al-ghadaa (i.e. al fajr) in congregation, then sits remembering Allah until sunrise, then prays two units of prayer, has a complete reward of Hajj and `Umrah [The Prophet, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, repeated ‘complete’ three times for emphasizing]. [At-Tirmidhi, classed as Saheeh by al-Albani]

8. Attending lectures in the mosque: “Whoever goes to the mosque not desiring except to learn or teach what is good has the reward of a pilgrim who completed his Hajj.” [At-Tabarani, classed as Saheeh by Al-Albani]

9. Performing `Umrah in the month of Ramadhan: “`Umrah in Ramadhan is equal to a Hajj with me.” [al-Bukhari]

10. Performing obligatory prayers in the mosque: “Whoever leaves his home in a state of purity to perform obligatory prayer, his reward is like that of a pilgrim (while) in the state of ihram [i.e. he receives reward similar to that of spending time in ihram during Hajj]. [Abu Dawud, classed as Saheeh by Al-Albani]. So one should be in a state of purity when leaving one’s home, rather than the place for ablution within the mosque, except due to necessity.

11. Being from the people of the first row in congregational prayers: `Irbad bin Saariyah, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, used to seek forgiveness for [the people of] the first row three times, and for [the people of the] second row once.” [an-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah]. “Allah and His Angels make salawat upon [the people of] the first row.” [Ahmad, with a good isnad]

12. Prayer in Masjid Qubaa’ in Madinah: “Whoever purifies himself in his house then comes to Masjid Qubaa’ and prays in it has the reward like that of `Umrah.” [An-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah]

13. Saying what the caller to prayer says: “Say as they say [i.e. callers to prayer], and when you finish, ask and you will be given.” [Abu Dawud and An-Nasa’i]. That is, supplicate when you finish repeating after the caller to prayer.

14. Fasting Ramadhan and following it with six days of Shawwal: “Whoever fasts Ramadhan, then follows it with six (days) of Shawwal, it is like fasting all the time.” [Muslim]

15. Fasting three days each month: “Whoever fasts three days each month, it is like fasting all the time.” [At-Tirmidhi]. This is supported by the verse, “Whoever comes with a good deed for him is a tenfold [reward].” (6:160). One day is being equal to ten days.

16. Providing food for breaking of the fast: “Whoever provides food for breaking of the fast of a fasting person receives the reward of the fasting person, without the reward of the fasting person being reduced in any way.” [At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah]

17. Standing in prayer on Laylatul-Qadr: “Laylatul Qadr is better than a thousand months” (Qur’an 97:3), that is, superior to approximately 83 years of worship.

18. Jihad: “Standing of a man in a row (saff) in the way of Allah is superior to 60 years of worship.” [Al-Hakim, classed as Saheeh by al-Albani]. This is the superiority of standing in a row, so what about one who fights in the way of Allah for days, or months, or years?

19. Ribaat: “Whoever takes a post (at borders of Muslim lands, where an enemy may be expected) for a day and night in the way of Allah has the reward of fasting and standing in prayer for a month, and whoever dies in such a state receives a continuous reward similar to it, and is [also] rewarded with provision and saved from al-Fattaan (i.e. punishment of the grave).” [Related by Muslim]

20. Righteous actions in the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah: “There are no days in which righteous deeds are dearer to Allah than these ten [days of Dhul Hijjah].” They said, “O Messenger, even jihad in the way of Allah?” He said, “Not even jihad in the way of Allah, except for the man who leaves with his life and wealth, and does not return with any of it (life or wealth).” [Al-Bukhari]

21. Frequent recitation of Qur’anic surahs: “Qul Huwa’Llahu Ahad” is equal to a third of the Qur’an and “Qul yaa ayyuha’l Kaafiroon” is equal to a fourth of the Qur’an.” [At-Tabarani, classed as Saheeh by Al-Albani]

22. Al-Istighfaar: “Whoever seeks forgiveness for believing men and believing women, Allah will write for him a good deed for each believing man and believing woman.” [At-Tabarani, classed as Hasan by Al-Albani]

23. Fulfilling people’s needs: “That I walk with my Muslim brother in [fulfilling his] need is dearer to me than being in i`tikaf (seclusion) in the masjid for a month.” [Ibn Abi Dunya, classed as Hasan by al-Albani]

24. Dhikr: That I say ‘Subhaan Allah, wal-Hamdu li’Llah, wa laa ilaaha ill Allahu wa’Llahu Akbar’ is dearer to me than what the sun has risen upon. [Muslim]

“Whoever enters a market and says: ‘Laa ilaaha ill Allah wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahul mulku wa lahul Hamdu yuhyi wa yumeetu wa huwa Hayyun laa yamoot, bi yadihil khayru, wahuwa `alaa kulli shay’in qadeer’ [there is nothing worthy of worship but Allah, He is alone without partner, to Him belongs dominion and praise, he causes life and death and He is the Living and does not die. In His Hand is all the good, and He is over all things competent.], Allah will write for him a million good deeds, erase a million of his bad deeds and raise him a million levels.” [at-Tirmidhi, classed as Hasan by al-Albani]

There are many other words of remembrance, which are rewarded abundantly, as is well known.

SOURCE: An article by Sulaymaan ibn Saalih al-Kharaashi- http://www.islamiczone.netfirms.com/Islamic%20Articles%20Folder/Easy%20Actions%20for%20which%20Rewards%20Are%20Multiplied.htm

What went down at Sisters Chillin’4

What went down at Sisters Chillin’4

360 Muslimah” … building well rounded personalities

As Salam Alaykum to YOU!

Sisters Chillin’4 was a picnic event held at the Alausa green park, Lagos Nigeria. on the 29^th of May 2011; with mats laid out under a tree for sisters to chill out. Having in attendance about 60% first timers and lot of yummy delicacies; Our sister Adefolake Latifah Sadiq officially opened the event, by welcoming us and talking us through the program of the day. After which she called on one of our sisters in the person of Sis. Islamiyat Sanusi Anjola to give us an opening prayer. Then we all took turn to give a brief introduction of ourselves (name, what we do, marital status and our hobbies).

After which Sis. Biliqis Omolara Banjo (our able PRO + location manager lol) took over. She set the atmosphere rolling by reminding us what Sisters Chillin was about – {“A social event for Youthful Muslimahs (both covering and non covering), to meet, learn, share and have fun while directly tackling the social challenges faced by them in this modern age. We should also remember that despite the social distraction and barriers we face, Islam is a solace rather than hindrance to achieving our dreams.”} She also thanked everyone for coming and encouraged us to feel free to mingle and ask questions on issues we might be going through.

That set the stage for the next agenda which was the “One House Chat”. Directed by the founder of Sisters Chillin’ Ola Olabimpe Sanusi (aka Q. Latyfah); who gave a summary of what a 360 muslimah should be. {“To be 360 muslimah means – to be a well rounded person – to have an amiable personality, with aura of excellence, strong iman, good sense humour, creativity and intelligence. Being well rounded does not mean you will glitter with no faults. But one who is guided by Islam. One who fully understands her duties towards Allah(SWT), and towards herself, her parents, her husband and children, her relatives, her friends and sisters in Islam, and her society as a whole, with all the different types of people, events and transactions it includes.” }

While enjoying the continuous flow of yummy snacks, the “one- house chat” witnessed very interesting interactions; on internal issues (such as non covering sisters vs covering sisters) as well as external issues (society vs Muslims). We also had some sisters share deep and touching personal experiences and tips, on how they became stronger and better Muslims. The “one house chat” came to a close with a summary of the pointers mentioned, as Ola. Olabimpe reminded us that time is ticking.  So we should work towards improving our weaknesses, without giving EXCUSES! Some of the pointers given on being a 360 muslimah include:

• To learn and know about the deen
• Uphold honesty and integrity
• Be socially responsible
• Staying confident and focused
• To look good and stay healthy
• Striving to a person of value
• Not to be too timid or shy to do what Is right
• Know what we want and go for it (or get what you need to achieve it)
• To always strike a balance when it comes to defending the deen or your practice.
• Knowing your roles – as a woman,  muslimah, human(as sister mother and wife etc)
• Strive to be better muslims
• Stop giving excuses and start improving our deen

Afterwards, networking and more munching went on… then paused! As we took time out to observe salat together as usual … then we slip back to gisting and buying etc

Suddenly, our Gift ferries showed up to reward the 1^st ten guests for coming early, and a little “thank you for coming” gift everyone. Then we had the picture session…. the cake cutting …Wow it was really fun!.  Even at this point the food mat wasn’t empty yet… so the serviettes got busy and there goes the take-aways… (*laughs*)

To Allah’s glory; we have successful hosted 4 editions Sisters Chillin’ (SC) as a FREE event; 100% funded by donations gathered from well wishers.

Special Thanks to:

• Biliqikis Omolara banjo
• Shekena Atitebi
• Tola Ositade
• Olugbenga Fatima
• Rofiat Adebisi
• Balikis Sanusi
• Folake Latifah Sadiq
• Mariam Alonge
• Rashedah Arogundade

And to everyone who pray, and contributed one way or the other jazak-Allah- Khair!

Words from the founder:  “I know Allah won’t give me what I can’t handle… but I confess, my fear for a clear weather, enough food, and sisters actually having fun and learning… gave me sleepless night before the day. But it all melted and I laughed very hard at myself; as Allah reassured me He is The Greatest and ISLAM is the way, the truth and light. Alhamdulillah!! Seeing everyone mixing and having fun was really gratifying. More thanks to everyone who came, those who wanted to, those who contributed and prayed for the successful outing we had. I pray Allah will reward you all abundantly… and that this will continue to help our sisters grow socially and spiritually. Insha Allah we will be coming out with details of Sisters Chillin’ 5 soon”.

Ma Salam

Ola Olabimpe

PS: See pictures from the event – http://on.fb.me/kFKslm

The Lessons from Death

< I am one person that believes in living your life with the end in view. So this is a reminder to us . By the way are you following us on facebook? Visit our fanpages The timeless LIGHT and Sisters Chillin’  for daily tips and motivational updates. Thanks in advance>

Life slips away second by second. Are you aware that every day brings you closer to death or that death is as close to you as it is to other people?

As we are told in the verse “Every soul shall taste death in the end; to Us shall you be brought back.” (Surat al-‘Ankabut: 57) everyone who has ever appeared on this earth was destined to die. Without exception they all died, every one. Today, we hardly come across the traces of many of these people who passed away. Those currently living and those who will ever live will also face death on a predestined day. Despite this fact, people tend to see death as an unlikely incident.

Think of a baby who has just opened its eyes to the world and a man who is about to breathe his last. Both had no influence on their individual birth or death whatsoever. Only God possesses the power to inspire the breath of life or to take it away.

All human beings will live until a certain day and then die; God in the Qur’an gives an account of the attitude commonly shown towards death in the following verse:

Say: “The death from which you flee will truly overtake you: then you will be sent back to the Knower of things secret and open: and He will tell you (the truth of) the things that you did!” (Surat al-Jumu’ah: 8 )

The majority of people avoid thinking about death. In the rapid flow of daily events, a person usually occupies himself with totally different subjects: what college to enroll in, which company to work for, what color of clothing to wear next morning, what to cook for supper; these are the kinds of major issues that we usually consider. Life is perceived as a routine process of such minor matters. Attempts to talk about death are always interrupted by those who do not feel comfortable hearing about it. Assuming death will come only when one grows older, one does not want to concern himself with such an unpleasant subject. Yet it should be kept in mind that living for even one further hour is never guaranteed. Everyday, man witnesses the deaths of people around him but thinks little about the day when others will witness his own death. He never supposes that such an end is awaiting him!

Nevertheless, when death comes to man, all the “realities” of life suddenly vanish. No reminder of the “good old days” endures in this world. Think of everything that you are able to do right now: you can blink your eyes, move your body, speak, laugh; all these are functions of your body. Now think about the state and shape your body will assume after your death.

From the moment you breathe for the last time, you will become nothing but a “heap of flesh”. Your body, silent and motionless, will be carried to the morgue. There, it will be washed for the last time. Wrapped in a shroud, your corpse will be carried in a coffin to the graveyard. Once your remains are in the grave, soil will cover you. This is the end of your story. From now on, you are simply one of the names represented in the graveyard by a marble stone.

During the first months or years, your grave will be visited frequently. As time passes, fewer people will come. Decades later, there will be no-one.

Meanwhile, your immediate family members will experience a different aspect of your death. At home, your room and bed will be empty. After the funeral, little of what belongs to you will be kept at home: most of your clothes, shoes, etc, will be given to those who need them. Your file at the public registration office will be deleted or archived. During the first years, some will mourn for you. Yet, time will work against the memories you left behind. Four or five decades later, there will remain only a few who remember you. Before long, new generations will come and none of your generation will exist any longer on earth. Whether you are remembered or not will be worthless to you.

While all this is taking place in the world, the corpse under the soil will go through a rapid process of decay. Soon after you are placed in the grave, the bacteria and insects proliferating in the corpse due to the absence of oxygen will start to function. The gasses released from these organisms will inflate the body, starting from the abdomen, altering its shape and appearance. Bloody froth will pop out the mouth and nose due to the pressure of gasses on the diaphragm. As corruption proceeds, body hair, nails, soles, and palms will fall off. Accompanying this outer alteration in the body, internal organs such as lungs, heart and liver will also decay. In the meantime, the most horrible scene takes place in the abdomen, where the skin can no longer bear the pressure of gasses and suddenly bursts, spreading an unendurably disgusting smell. Starting from the skull, muscles will detach from their particular places. Skin and soft tissues will completely disintegrate. The brain will decay and start looking like clay. This process will go on until the whole body is reduced to a skeleton.

There is no chance of going back to the old life again. Gathering around the supper table with family members, socializing or to having an honorable job will never again be possible.

In short, the “heap of flesh and bones” to which we assign an identity faces a quite nasty end. On the other hand, you – or rather, your soul – will leave this body as soon as you breathe your last. The remainder of you – your body – will become part of the soil.

Yes, but what is the reason for all these things happening?

If God willed, the body would never have decayed in such a way. That it does so actually carries a very important inner message in itself.

The tremendous end awaiting man should make him acknowledge that he is not a body himself, but a soul “encased” within a body. In other words, man has to acknowledge that he has an existence beyond his body. Furthermore, man should understand the death of his body which he tries to possess as if he is to remain eternally in this temporal world. However this body, which he deems so important, will decay and become worm-eaten one day and finally be reduced to a skeleton. That day might be very soon.

Despite all these facts, man’s mental process is inclined to disregard what he does not like or want. He is even inclined to deny the existence of things he avoids confronting. This tendency seems to be most apparent when death is the issue. Only a funeral or the sudden death of an immediate family member brings this reality to mind. Almost everybody sees death far from himself. The assumption is that those who die while sleeping or in an accident are different people and what they face will never befall us! Everybody thinks it is too early to die and that there are always years ahead to live.

Yet most probably, people who die on the way to school or hurrying to attend a business meeting shared the same thought. They probably never thought that the next day’s newspapers would publish news of their deaths. It is entirely possible that, as you read these lines, you still do not expect to die soon after you have finished them or even entertain the possibility that it might happen. Probably you feel that it is too early to die because there are many things to accomplish. However, this is just an avoidance of death and these are only vain endeavors to escape it:

Say: “Running away will not profit you if you are running away from death or slaughter; and even if (you do escape), no more than a brief (respite) will you be allowed to enjoy!”(Surat al-Ahzab: 16)

Man who is created alone should be aware that he will also die alone. Yet during his life, he lives almost addicted to possessions. His sole purpose in life becomes to possess more. Yet, no-one can take his goods with him to the grave. The body is buried wrapped in a shroud made from the cheapest of fabrics. The body comes into this world alone and departs from it in the same way. The only asset one can take with him when one dies is one’s belief or disbelief.

SOURCE: http://ipaki.com/content/html/31/436.html

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Your Employment & Expenditure: Keeping it Halal!

<In our struggle to make ends meet, we need to realise that as Muslims; we have to be very careful with our choices, dealing and earning. What drives you…or what are you aiming at? Please avoid earning wealth that brings you closer to Allah wrath. It not exactly an easy task/ decision/ practice but we should at least try and ask Allah to help us. This is a piece By Taha Ghayyur- titled A Young Muslim’s Guide to Halal Employment. Enjoy!>

Every summer young Muslim students go through stressful times trying to find a means of earning that is decent, professional, yet Islamically lawful. While many do land good and Halal jobs, others resort to any work or industry, often out of desperation and hopes of ‘quick big cash’, that may not be pleasing to Allah, the source of all our Rizq (wealth, sustenance and blessings).

It is important that we, the Muslim youth, work hard and with honestly to earn money, instead of sitting idle at home or stealing other’s money. Our Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, once reminded us, “It is better that a person should a take a rope and bring bundles of wood on his back to sell so that Allah may preserve his honour than that he should beg from people.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

Consumerism’s Promise: You will Never be ‘Content’

As we strive to sustain ourselves with part time jobs, we need to learn the ethics of ‘right’ and ‘pure’ earning and spending. How many youth are out there whose sole purpose of earning is to buy a new set of brand name shoes, the latest game, or the nail polish in vogue on weekly basis! This is indeed the destructive outcome of our consumer teen culture.

Why is it crucial to not to fall for this culture of greed? The Prophet, peace be upon him, has told us, “Riches are sweet, and a source of blessing to those who acquire them (lawfully) by the way; but those who seek them out of greed are like people who eat but are never full (or satisfied). “

Therefore, this kind of greed to have ‘everything cool or every fad out there’ will never satisfy you, no matter how much of it you have. Ever wonder, why the music and film industry never loses money? The idea is to keep every young person in our society ‘hooked’ on to the music, lyrics, and the ‘stars’, that are strategically released to the public gradually, in stages, so that everyone keeps coming back for ‘more’.

Reality of ‘Entertainment’ and your Employment

This material instant gratification is not going to buy you happiness and peace, as promised by the allurings ads and persuasive salespersons. At the end of the day, we realise how hollow and temporary this ‘entertainment’ is— something that destroys our soul by taking our mind and feelings to another realm of fantasy, only to discover we are is back to the same harsh realities of this life as soon as the screen turns off!

The way we ‘kill our time’ in our leisure activities has a great influence on the type of job we look for. If our priority in life is to serve our family, community, and Islam, as well as improving our own relationship with Allah, then certainly we would look for a job or a profession that accommodates all such commitments.

It helps to keep in mind the following portrayal of reality by our Prophet, peace be upon him: “Whoever sets this world as his goal, Allah divides his affairs for him. He will place poverty between his eyes, and nothing will come to him from this world except what Allah has written for him. Whoever sets the Hereafter as his goal, Allah gathers his affairs for him, gives him richness of the heart and the world will come to him grudgingly and submissively.” [Ibn Majah & Ibn Hibban]

“It is not poverty which I fear….”

Is it any wonder that the beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, once commented, “It is not poverty which I fear for you, but that you might desire the world as others before you desired it, and it might destroy you, as it destroyed them.”

How do we suppress our love for this world? We can do so by spending less on ourselves and contributing as much as possible to those in need. Even a regular, nominal donation to your local masjid, charity organisation, youth group, Islamic publication, or a poor person would greatly bless your limited income from employment as a student; it will also serve a profound reminder to cut the greed. Your regular contribution to other’s well-being will make you think, every time you are window shopping in a mall, “Do I really need it? Or am I tempted to buy this shirt because my friend always talks about it?

5 Reasons to avoid working for Riba (interest) based institutions

1. Riba (interest) involves earning income without actually working to earn it;
2. Riba based companies involve taking advantage of the need or financial circumstances of the borrower of loan;
3. Taking Riba, or working for institutions that promote it, contribute to great injustice and devastation, both at individual and global level, such as, bankruptcy, corporate scandals, economic recession, credit crunch, debts, and staggering unemployment to name a few.
4. Daily toil has become a never-ending struggle to pay off interest on mortgages or business loans, and societies have become class-ridden structures in which huge wealth is concentrated in the hands of a few.
5. As Salih Al-Munajjid argues, “Perhaps all this is a manifestation of the war threatened by Allah to those who deal in Riba….The least harm that a job involving Riba does is to destroy the blessing (Barakah) of the money, even if a person’s income is great. The Prophet, peace be upon him, himself once said, ‘Even if Riba is much, it will end up being a small amount.’ [Al-Hakim]“

Employment Search: Tips on keeping it Halal

This time when you go out searching for employment, look for a job that is pure and Halal. Make sure it’s work-environment allows you to maintain your Islamic identity, including time and space for the daily prayers and allowance to observe Hijab or Islamically modest clothing. Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood in her book Living with Teenagers and Yusuf al-Qaradawi in his research work The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam provide the following useful tips on what type of job to stay away from:

1. any form of activity deriving money from pornography, prostitution and indecency (such as theatres, movie stores, clubs….etc.), as Allah reminds us, “And do not come near Zina (fornication); indeed it is an abomination and an evil way” [17:32];
2. any form of drama or dance entertainment that is deliberately or suggestive;
3. making statues of living creatures or photography that is sexually provocative, as the Prophet, peace be upon him, once said, “Allah will punish anyone who makes figures (of living beings), until he breathes spirit into them, which he can never do” [Bukhari];
4. manufacturing, trading, or serving intoxicants and drugs;
5. working in a bar, off-licence, nightclub, dance hall, etc.;
6. being involved in armed forces fighting against other Muslims or killing innocent people;
7. working in banks, stock exchanges, futures markets, insurance companies, and other usurious or Riba-based institutions.

How do I tell….

How do we tell what is a Haram (unlawful) or Halal (lawful) work? A general principle, as Ruqaiyyah W. Maqsood explains, “is that if anybody’s means of earning a living hurts another, or results in another’s loss or corruption, then it is Haram. If it is fair and beneficial to others as well, then it is Halal. Obviously, any business or job that involves dishonesty, bribery, gambling, cheating (do deceptive marketing strategies ring a bell?), fraud, sexual degradation, or any other means of making a profit by exploiting others (such as lottery/raffle tickets), is forbidden to us Muslims.

The best practice is to ignore or leave any job opportunity that seems to fall in the grey area. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, advised us, “Leave alone what puts you in doubt and turn toward what does not create any doubt.” [Ahmad & Tirmidhi] This is perhaps the most practical tip to use in employment search.

The Road Ahead…

Before we give up all the hope of finding a good Halal job after reading this list of precautions, remember there are innumerable sources of employment, including Muslim and non-Muslim owned businesses, that offer a decent, honorable, professional, and above all Halal, environment. We may begin our job search with the local Muslim business directory!

We would never despair if we realised the truth of a Prophetic statement, “If you give up something for the sake of Allah, He will replace it with something (even) better.” Let’s have the following words of Allah etched in our heart, “Whoever has Taqwa (consciousness) of Allah, He will make a way out for him” [Surah Talaq: 3]. This verse should boost he confidence, faith, and optimism of all the young Muslims striving to adopt a pure and Islamic lifestyle and to benefit their society as responsible citizens.

SOURCE: http://myinkspiration.wordpress.com/2007/12/27/your-employment-expenditure-keeping-it-halal/